I have managed to (mostly) get over the flu.
I am still exhausted. The right side of my face is swollen and painful - and my teeth hurt when I cough. I think it's just a holdover from the virus...An errant swollen gland that is there to remind me to not be too cocky about my health.
C offered to watch my last two hours so I can go home, but I honestly don't even have the energy to do that. It seems less taxing to just sit in my classrooms and watch my students work.
Surely there is more to work than this. I am incredibly unmotivated, and incredibly behind with the office-y stuff (grand surprise, that). I feel like if I could just get caught up and get enough rest I would be a fabulously inspiring teacher. Of course, that keeps me from having to actually do anything, because I'll never be motivated to get completely caught up. This was supposed to be a soft place to land and figure out what my next move should be. This place has not been soft. Softer than the Evil Empire, of course, but not soft enough.
It seems like something should stick. Some job/career should just call to me, or I should be drawn to it. Something that will be exciting and interesting... something that will use my skills and inspire me to greatness.
Some girls dream of big houses and sweet men. I dream of a fulfilling job. And sweet men. I mean, seriously, who doesn't dream about someone sweet to love??
I've fallen off the dating cliff... I'm becoming too complacent. Being single is just too easy. Too safe. I like my napping, and my unfettered weekends. I like my cats and my books.
But I am finding that the longer I'm single the more impossible my choice in men becomes. This is how I end up dating married bosses and man children... It's like I'm TOO single to date appropriately. Is that a thing?? Maybe it's just me. The available, appropriate men are hidden (in plain sight, I assume) and all I can see are the men who are destined to not live up to my expectations and break my heart.
There is a current man child - and he is impossible. I don't think anything will come of this - too many boundaries, too much denial. And even if we were to somehow magically navigate all of that, he is a man child, and I would have to boss him around. I'm no good at that. I'd like to say I'm too easy going, but the reality is that I'm just plain too fucking tired to manage anyone but myself. I'm too fucking tired to even manage myself, really. Maybe I could boss him into bossing me around? Within reason, you know.
Sometimes I think I really am the "single friend," and that's just how it is going to be. I am the anecdote that my married and otherwise coupled friends bring up to talk about how hard dating is. I am the slightly scandalous singleton with the good "bad date" stories.
Maybe it's just that the holidays have me down. All of my paired-up friends... it's so easy to feel so very alone.
And the flu... that has me down.
And my job.
And my messy, falling apart little house.
Baby steps to right where I started.